I am interested in how you all feel about this. I never really gave it much thought; I mean, in my family, if you wanted a recipe for something, you asked and it was given. I had heard of people who don’t give out their recipes, but I think I didn’t really believe these people existed – like, that was just in sitcoms or something! I mean, what’s the big deal, right?
Okay, for the sake of argument, I can see if you are some famous chef with a restaurant and your livelihood depends on people paying to come eat your meals that you have painstakingly created, maybe you shouldn’t give out your recipes. Although there will always be people like me who’d rather pay to eat in your restaurant than cook it myself. Not to mention some people can’t cook worth a crap (see: me) so they wouldn’t be able to make it good anyhow…
I have to admit (see above) I can’t cook. I can bake; in fact I am pretty darn good at it. I make great cookies and pretty good other dessert-y stuff. I can even do really well at some breakfast stuff like pancakes and french toast, because that’s actually more like baking. But I can’t make a meal decently. My idea of a good home cooked meal for my family is grilled cheese sandwiches with tomato soup, or maybe spaghetti with jar sauce. Yeah, I’m lame. And I’m okay with that. Actually, my piece de resistance is “Dinner in a Pumpkin” and it’s that time of year, isn’t it?! Anyway, even though baking is my “thing” I will share any cookie recipe you ask me for, and I will even give you hints or suggestions that have helped me make that recipe better. I have a friend who is a fabulous chef, who is from another country. If you ask her for a recipe, she will not only agree to share, but she’ll invite you over to eat so she can show you exactly how to prepare that particular dish!
So, fast forward to today. We had a big extended-family get together, and it turns out that one of my relatives (married into the family, not born into) refuses to share recipes. With anyone. Not even family. Not even with her mother-in-law, who is a pretty good cook and is apparently pretty annoyed with the situation! I asked her to explain her reasons, because I seriously can’t understand why you wouldn’t share. Basically she said because they are her recipes, (like they got passed down from her grandma, I guess not out of a cookbook, altho I am guessing granny got them out of a cookbook at some point… she admitted she doesn’t really know. I mean, reeeeally) and she doesn’t want anyone else to be able to make her special stuff. Because then she wouldn’t be the one making the special stuff. Or, because they’d make it wrong then feed it to her when she came over and she’d be disappointed in it. Something like that. Honestly, it just sounded really – selfish. Or, as another family member put it – “Geez, you’re like a little kid sitting in a corner with all your toys hidden behind you, who wants to play with the other kids’ toys but just yells “MINE” when anyone wants to play with yours.” Lol. Exactly!
So, what about you? Do you share, or not? If not, why not? Can you give me a better reason than selfishness?
(I stole this pic off the internet. I give credit to – whomever credit is due. Thank you.)