Husbands…..AAAArrrrgggghhhhhh!!

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I love my husband.  I do…keep telling yourself that….. I do, I do….. Have you ever heard "Love is a choice, not a feeling"?  ‘Cause right now, I am not feeling it!!    Why is it, if we both have a different view or memory of how something happened, he’s the one who is right.  It couldn’t be me, of course…. We’ve been having this discussion, we need to drive up to Seattle to pick up some restaurant equipment, and the actual time of this trip has been tossed around a bit.  I specifically remember saying I did not want to go this weekend because I have -, -, and – going on.  He specifically remembers saying it’s the only weekend that will work.  Why?  Why will it work – for him, not for me, but somehow that doesn’t matter??  We had also discussed upcoming weekends, and pros and cons of some, but I don’t remember that we ever said THIS IS THE ONLY WEEKEND WE CAN GO, SO WE HAVE TO DO IT NOW.   However, this is how he remembers it, therefore it is the way it happened.  End of story.  I am willing to say "gosh, I don’t remember that being said, but maybe" but he is always sureGrowl.  So I am at the fabric store with my mom, trying to find a pattern for an Easter dress for Kiki, and he calls and asks if I want to leave right after his meeting in the morning, or we can go later in the afternoon.  I’m like "wha….???"  I’ll admit, I am also absolutely horrid at multi-tasking.  My brain was in "sew" gear, and it doesn’t jump quick to "trip" gear… I said I’d call him back, and aparently that was a personal insult to him.  When I did call back later, he was all ticked off, like "I thought you’d be excited about taking a trip"….yeah, sure, but give me a sec to collect my thoughts, eh?  Now he won’t decide when to go – it’s all up to me (I mean, a.m. or p.m., I guess he’s going this weekend with or without me…..another growl…..)  I got so dang mad at him over the phone, I hung up on him!  I haven’t done that in….years.  Honestly.  I’m not sure why I’m so mad….Because he says we have to go, but then it’s my responsibility to figure out when??  Because he treats me like I’m the only one who might possibly forget exactly how a conversation went??  Because his events and schedules are important, and mine count for nothing??    Crap.  I know I have to call him back and apologize for hanging up on him.  Crap-a-doodle-doo.  Then I have 87 more phone calls to make arrangements for the lessons we are going to miss, events we won’t be attending….do laundry….pack…..make pet care arrangements….he doesn’t have to do any of that….. .grrrrrrr.      breathe….just breathe…..
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  1. Sometimes it seems like they just are not loving us like Christ loves the church!!  I have to remind hubby that he is called to lay his life down for me but that I will settle for being made to feel like a princess!!!  Good luck with your trip maybe it will be good alone time to tell him how you feel??
     
    Oh, and great will power with the fast food the other night!  I still have my weaknesses and burgers and fries are some of them!
     
    Take care,
    B

  2. Hope you have a nice getaway this weekend.  I hear you about all the preparations to take off, though! 
     
    I loved Brenda\’s comment!

  3. lol…men..sometimes they are so complicated…and they think we are…hope that you get everything under control…i haven\’t hung up on anyone in years either…lol..it\’s so immature and yet it gets the point of how you feel across….now if i could just find someone to call and get mad at and hang up on them maybe my week would get better…
    :o) smiles are contagious…so pass one to people that you love and those you don\’t…and soon everyone will be smiling… :o)

  4. Hmmm…..not knowing how important what you needed to get makes it tough to comment.  I hope the trip went well and that you didn\’t have to cancel anything truly important.  I am a big Seahawks fan and would love to see Seattle!  Just don\’t want to fly:(
    Take care, gail

  5. Inhale, exhale.  Sometimes that\’s the best thing to concentrate on.
     
    Looking forward to hearing the outcome of this one I gotta admit…
     
    Love ya!!!  Prayin\’ for ya too!
     
    Carol 🙂

  6. ONce you accept that guys are just lost, you\’ll feel better.  My DH does that sorta thing all the time.  I walk in the door and don\’t have my coat off "your computer caught a virus"…"My mother wants me to fly home for [insert celebration]"..he will have processed what ever the issue is and will be so furious with me while I am processing whatever negative news he has for me.  I guess I haven\’t accepted that all guys are lost yet either.  Hang in there sister!

  7. Oh how frustrating.  But, sometimes I miss having someone to frustrate me.  It\’s rough on either side.
     
    I hope the weekend goes well.  It\’ll be fine.

  8. Thanks for stopping by my blog. I\’m pleased to meet you. I will read through your post and get to know you better.
    I noticed you home school. One of my daughter-in-law home schools her two kids. That a big job.
    Linda,
    The old lady in Missouri

  9. Ann,
     
    So hoping the trip turns out to be wonderful…you sound sorta like you NEED it! :o)
    Can\’t wait to hear about it…
     
    weimie

  10. Hi Ann.
    Hope things went well this weekend.  Sometimes I get frustrated with Dave when he doesn\’t read my mind like I expect him to!  Or we have parallel conversations.  Nothing like riding in a car together to be able to connect 🙂  Hope things are going well with your diet resolve.  I need some will power these days.  Winter has made me want to go to the "Land of Treats".  I am looking forward to some nice weather to get out biking with the kids and shake off my polar bear layer.  When we get out there, I\’ll post a picture of our unusual bike, tagalong and trailer!
    Hugs and prayers!

  11. I\’m guessing you all ended up going on your last minute trip to Seattle.  I hope all went well and you had some time to enjoy your new surroundings. 
     
    My husband also tends to sabotage my dieting efforts.  He needs to lose quite a bit of weight, as I do, but he so loves to eat that he encourages me to eat poorly when I am struggling simply because that means he can eat all of the junk food, too.  The one time I was successful with losing weight and becoming totally healthy was when I was on my own between my divorce and meeting my new husband.  I had my kids\’ eating issues to deal with then, but they basically just had to eat what I prepared.  I also bought them snacks that wouldn\’t tempt me.  It is so hard to stay on course when there are others around with their own agendas.  Stay strong and take it one day at a time. 

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