What do you do when your child truly believes they must have some particular item, for which you can see absolutely no purpose?? Kiki is absolutely dying for a pair of Heelies. For you not "in the know", they are like Athletic shoes with a rather bulky rubber sole, in the heel of which you can put a little skate wheel…so you can sort of rollerblade on your heels. I think they are stupid. They look absolutely clunky to walk in – the child basically has to walk on their toes – then the kids run and pop up on their heels to ‘roll’… I have been nearly run down more than once in the market or mall with these things. Most parents probably wouldn’t let their kids wear rollerblades or skates to school or church or the store, but everyone seems to think Heelies are for everywhere. Our Sunday school leaders and School principal have been telling and telling the kids not to wear these because they are totally trashing the gym floor, but the kids just keep on doing it. "They’re just tennis shoes, I don’t have to roll on them" True, but you are rolling on them! So, I think they are absolute rubbish – she has tennies, she has rollerblades, she’s good to go. But she says "everyone" has them (yeah, ah hah…I’ve heard that before and I don’t care!) – but, seriously, she is one of the two in her classroom of 15 that does not have them. Which makes me wonder about the sanity of the other parents,… I mean, these little suckers are expensive, too…they are like $60 – $70.00… not to mention the sheer annoyance of them! Of course, Kiki only mentioned these a week before Christmas, and that was because she found out her cousin was getting them (thank you sooo much, people!) and I have mentioned how competetive Kiki and this cousin are…. and of course, everyone in class got them for Christmas, too, I swear, she’s even counting people in the mall who have them, as we are shopping….It was too late at this point, I’d already bought her Christmas gifts…and, I don’t know if I’d have gotten Heelies anyway, as I despise them…but, maybe I just don’t get it. I’m not a "tween" and I don’t want them, but I am sure I wanted stuff my parents thought was dumb… now, I’m not for getting her stuff just because ‘everyone else’ has it, but am I being…stuffy? Non-understanding? Then she has started saying how her cousin and other friends have clothes that are much ‘cooler’ than her own clothes. She did say she knows she has nice clothes, and she likes them, but they are more "cute" than "cool". Which I have done completely on purpose, thank you. She’s a little girl, dang it, not a teeny-bopper. So, she’d like to go and "maybe get some cool clothes…" Uhg. My little girl is growing up, and I am so not thrilled about it! I mostly just want her to be her own person, not to have to follow the crowd…how do you teach that? To be yourself, not a carbon-copy of everyone else out there, dressing how ‘they’ say you need to? Ah, Parenting….it’s not for wimps!!